Confessions of a Bilingual Parenting Slacker

My youngest son, with a last name of Valdes is not fully bilingual.

But you’re such a proponent of conserving and sharing your culture.

But your whole deal is about being a proud Latina.

But you’re so Type A and overly organized, Danay.

I know I know.

Listen, I’m fully aware of what a hypocrite I am coming off as.

My only defense is that life happened and I paid very little attention to our youngest’s Spanish language development.

It also doesn’t help that Papi and I speak English all day. We left Miami when he was 10 and only visit periodically. We now live in Virginia and we only know one other family here who is Hispanic. They also don’t really speak it with the kids or each other.

I do speak Spanish with clients daily, but he usually isn’t around to hear me.

So, yes, I am ashamed of and disappointed in myself for not prioritizing.

But you also know that I am all about taking ownership of mistakes and learning from them.

Then I take action.

So, that’s what I did.

And part of the actions I have taken included reaching out to my network of Latina moms for advice.

Keep in mind, although Spanish fluency is my goal for my son, these tips can be applied to any language you want to teach your child.

Tip #1: Get a curriculum in place

I immediately decided to sign him up for Spanish classes in his co-op. This way it’s reinforced somewhere else and I can focus on practicing with him versus trying to teach him the basics on my own. This has been one of the best decisions I have made.

You can sign your kids up for a local class or a virtual one.

Here are some great online resources for language learning:

With iTalki you get 1-on-1 lessons from native language teachers and join a community of more than 5 million language learners.

Coursera has a plethora of courses that your kids can take at their own page with pre-recorded lessons.

Busuu has a free version but the premium version is where it’s at.  They offer 12 different language courses with features like flashcards, conversations with native speakers, mobile apps with offline mode, quizzes and grammar exercises.

Tip #2: Apps Apps Apps!

Yes, there’s an app for that. Here are a couple to try out.

Duolingo is a free app that boasts over 300 million users.  The secret? Duolingo feels like a game and makes sure you stay motivated. Download it on iTunes and let me know how you like it. Thanks to Marcelina Santiago of AhorrarMas for the tip.

Juana La Iguana, created by Tania Gilinski, is a set of apps featuring that features lovable lizard Juana la Iguana that help children learn Spanish words for colors, fruits, and animals with matching and memory games. While the apps are meant for kids ages 2–5, I think any age can benefit from the practice you get with memory games.  Check them out on iTunes for all three versions.

Tip #3: Game It Up

My Amiga, Flor Garcia of Little Nomadas is an expat who currently resides in Germany with her husband and 3 multilingual kids. Since she is an expert in the areas of language and expatriation support, I knew she’d have some great tips. She did not disappoint. Here is what she had to say.

“Board games night! Thursdays we play games for 60 minutes and we choose fun games to motivate the kids to speak Spanish. Our two favorites: Who is it? and Taboo for Kids. Both games require a description of people and objects thus giving our children the opportunity to use vocabulary in Spanish that they already know or learn that same evening.”

“60 secs: This game was created by me after realizing that some families don’t have the time or the discipline to sit every night to watch a movie in Spanish or play a board game. “60 secs” can be played anywhere, anytime. It consists of giving your child 60 seconds to talk about ANYTHING they want! The catch? Using their Spanish skills! The first weeks my kids were a little bit reluctant, but now they are prepared and look forward to it. One minute goes by so fast! Don’t forget to play this game as frequently as you want/need.”

Tip #4: Netflix and Spanish

Did you know that Netflix has a Spanish setting? I didn’t!

My friend, Carolina King of Mama Instincts suggested using the Spanish setting for your kids’ profiles. This way, everything that is available in Spanish will show up by default.

Final thoughts

Being bilingual has been a huge blessing for me in my business. It has also been helpful personally with simple things like communicating with family in other countries who only speak Spanish.

I want to make sure my kids retain this as a part of their culture but also as a tool that can benefit them in both their professional and personal lives.

Do you have bilingual children or have you thought about teaching your kids a second language?

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Post Author: Danay Escanaverino

Danay Escanaverino is a Latina entrepreneur, mom, avid traveler, tech geek, history buff, blogger and ADHD poster child She is CEO of LunaSol Media and Founder of HispanicYa! Follow her on Google+ , Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat

16 thoughts on “Confessions of a Bilingual Parenting Slacker

    robin rue

    (October 22, 2018 - 5:50 am)

    There really IS an app for everything. My son is taking Spanish in school right now and these apps would be a huge help to him.

    Alli Smith

    (October 22, 2018 - 5:59 am)

    My daughter took Spanish in high school and then for two years in college, but sadly, she has forgotten most of what she learned because she didn’t keep practicing. Another daughter and her husband are taking Spanish lessons from their Spanish speaking friend. I think it’s wonderful to have children that are bilingual.

    Terri Steffes

    (October 22, 2018 - 6:32 am)

    Our daughter taught herself French when she was in her 20s. She said she’d always wanted to speak another language. I had no idea.

    Karen

    (October 22, 2018 - 7:09 am)

    I LOVE that you shared this, and here’s why. A Type A personality can STILL not have everything together. It’s a common misconception that we type A’s are always on our game. NOT true. We just do everything we can to be on our game.

      Danay Escanaverino

      (October 23, 2018 - 6:41 am)

      I love this! I completely agree with you on the misconception.

    candy

    (October 22, 2018 - 7:10 am)

    I know many families who only speak their native language at home so the kids learn and become fluent. Think it is wonderful and can only benefit the children.

    Jeanette

    (October 22, 2018 - 7:10 am)

    I am not bilingual but my husband is! I was hoping that he would teach my kiddos to speak more than one language so that they could always have that, but he didn’t! I am glad you are teaching your son!

    Amber Myers

    (October 22, 2018 - 7:19 am)

    I wish my kids could speak more than one language. We live in Texas now and they have dual language programs, but my kids are older and aren’t as keen to learn. If we were here when they were smaller, I’d have put them in the program! My son is in Spanish 2 in High School and is doing well at least.

    Pam

    (October 22, 2018 - 8:35 am)

    My son-in-law is a translator so my grandkids speak English, Spanish, and Portuguese. They usually practice while visiting their bi-lingual friends.

    Melissa Chapman

    (October 22, 2018 - 10:04 am)

    It is always so valuable a skill to know two languages and Spanish is eveerywhere in this country. I hope my kids get enoughlanguage in school as they get to high school

    Dennis Littley

    (October 22, 2018 - 6:02 pm)

    It’s so great to have these language resources for becoming bilingual. Netflix having a Spanish setting is pretty helpful!

    1stopmom

    (October 23, 2018 - 6:57 am)

    I can not speak any other languages besides English. I wish I would have learned another language when I was younger. My son can speak German and my daughter can speak French though.

    Kathy

    (October 23, 2018 - 9:01 am)

    I think it’s great to be able to know more than one language. I took classes in school, but unfortunately I can’t remember much anymore. I’ve been looking at apps myself to help me more with Spanish!

    Kita Bryant

    (October 23, 2018 - 2:38 pm)

    Being bilingual is a serious privilege. I would love to up my Spanish game. I know how to speak it brokenly. Lol!

    Rachel

    (October 23, 2018 - 2:49 pm)

    My nephew isn’t fully bilingual and also has the last name Valdez. I am going to share this with my sister so they can have some ideas.

    Jeanine

    (October 23, 2018 - 8:42 pm)

    Wow who knew! There are so many wicked apps out there. I need to take a boo.. my girls are so interested in other languages!

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