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Never Been a Loser? You’re Missing Out!

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Williamsburg Youth Baseball League 2017 Championship WinnersWe did it!

Our baseball team won the league championship!

The score was 11-2.

The boys played an amazing game and every. single. boy. had a part in the win.

After the game was over, the losing team challenged the win alleging that we benched four of our players which is not allowed.

We were floored.

Not only did that not happen, but could you imagine the complaints that would have come from our parents if any of their kids were benched?

It was the worst display of being a sore loser I have ever witnessed.

And that is saying a lot.

I have been involved in baseball with both my boys for 17 years.

My oldest, who is now 27 was coached by his dad and I was team mom since he was 10.

We even did commissioner duty for a bit.

Now the teenybopper plays and hubby and our oldest coach him while I have been gladly performing team mom duties once again for the last couple of seasons.

We have been both the worst and best teams with both boys.

Frankly, we’ve been somewhere in the middle most of the time.

Being the best and winning a championship is awesome and really fun for the boys.

But being the losing team has also been amazing for them.

And I don’t mean “participation trophy” losing team. I don’t believe in participation trophies. I believe in the lessons you receive.

Those are your trophies.

These lessons are essential for building character and succeeding in life.

How you lose is important

The losing team for this particular game did this so poorly that I was embarrassed for the boys. The head coach who was used to always winning decided to accuse us of cheating with a rule violation. There was no rule violation and it was just poor character on his part.

Our kids earned the 11-2 score with exemplary sportsmanship while the opposing team characterized their loss with not shaking hands at the end of the game, the coach casting verbal slurs and making verbal threats towards anther coach and the parents saying mean and hateful things.

Can you imagine how this will translate for them into adulthood?

What do you do when you are let go of a job due to layoffs and budget cuts? Do you stomp your feet and complain and burn all bridges?

Or do you go home, lick your wounds and keep your relationships intact in case someone from your former job happens to need to hire someone at a new company?

The old saying, “It’s who you know,” is the truest thing I have learned in business.

Burn bridges and you burn opportunities.

Losing teaches you to work harder

Another disservice that was done to the kids on the opposing team was not teaching them to work harder. By letting them assume that the win was robbed from them, they also mistakenly assumed that they didn’t need to work at anything.

When you fail at something, all it means is you have work to do.

Every single person who has succeeded at something has failed many times before they experienced success.

That is the very essence of failure.

It teaches you to work harder and smarter.

There is no joy in winning without losing.

If you are always a winner, the sweet taste of victory is just not as sweet. That is why everyone loves the story of the underdog winning.

We all know what it’s like to be that underdog.

Even the greatest athletes agree. When I saw Serena Williams speak at BlogHer this summer, one of the important things spoke about was the value of losing and how it made her work harder and made success much better.

Losing teaches you to be a gracious winner.

This is a big one!

Yes, we won. Yes I am celebrating and announcing it from the rooftops because I am proud.

But I am also proud of our entire team and how they handled the situation with the opposing team who had been the winners for the past 2 or 3 years.

We were the underdog and our boys acted graciously because they have also been the losing team and worked really hard to win.

They acted graciously because it is the right thing to do.

They acted graciously because our parents were amazing and did their jobs.

Our players went to shake hands with the other team members, and even though most of them refused to return the handshake, our boys held their dignity and did not react and continued to thank them for a good game.

Our parents and players stepped aside and allowed our coaches to discuss the allegations with the commissioner while the other coach involved the players and parents in a swarm onto the field with the commissioner. The behavior and language from the coaches, parents and players were ridiculous, bad form and just plain sad.

In the end, the truth prevailed and our team was rightfully announced the winners.

But the truth is, we were winners in other, more important areas which will enable our boys to go into the world and slay their dragons.

Sometimes they will win and other times they will lose.

But they will always be equipped with grace, manners and the gumption to get back up and work harder for what they want.

And THAT is truly winning.

 

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23 Responses

  1. I am always reinforcing to my son that you should always be gracious- whether you win or lose. And, as you said, it is more than just practicing good sportsmanship. You can learn important life lessons either way.

  2. It’s very interesting how everybody talks about winning and succeeding, but hardly anyone wants to talk about what it’s like to lose and fail. I believe learning to handle failure is important because it’s how you learn to win. It’s a pity the kids in the other team didn’t get that sort of valuable lesson, but I’m glad your kids did. We need more of this sort of parenting.

  3. Congrats to the team.! It’s such a shame that the other team acted that way! I agree with you the only thing they are showing the team is that are never wrong. They are not taking that chance to understand why they loss or what your sons team did to improve! You sound very proud!

  4. This post is important in so many ways. Loosing and loosing amicably teaches humility and teaches you to work harder. This is such a great post.

    Thanks for Sharing

    John M

  5. I think losing is important, it shows you have to work hard, try hard and accept things that come at you.

  6. OMG! I cannot believe the actions of the other coach. That is truly disgraceful! I hope his players’ parents talked to them about graceful losing and taking the high road. Geez, the nerve of that guy. Heck, every single one of my coaches would have us doing drills if we refused to shake hands and at least say “Good Game.” That dude needs to reevaluate his coaching choices.

  7. I was at BlogHer when Serena Williams talked about losing and the lessons she has learned – great talk! I love your post because it shows there is value in each experience and it’s evident that you go beyond competition, focusing on what you can learn. I love your positive perspective!

  8. I just cannot believe the other coach! What is he teaching those poor kids. Loosing teaches us to try harder and get that win next time. Glad the truth prevailed at the end though.

  9. Even we are good on what we do, sometimes it is nice to fail, for this means you can challenge yourself and motivate to learn and work harder. Over confidence is no good sometimes.

  10. Well done you and the team!! Congratulations on the winning, but also on the lesson taught. I enjoyed reading it and going through moments in my life too. Life it’s a balance and at least your luck is unbreakable, we all have good and bad days. It’s important the lesson your team showed as it is integrity, most of all!

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